Here’s the forgotten word that could avoid endless bickering and help build consensus.
The word toxic, as it’s popularly used these days, has its roots in the concept of “toxic mimicry,” first introduced by environmentalist and award-winning author Derrick Jensen in his book, Endgame:¹
I used to believe that civilization…
When tested for resistance to pain, Zen meditation practitioners showed a higher pain threshold than non-meditators.
Researchers studied their brains in an MRI to see what was going on.¹
There are two groupings of brain regions that tend to work together. …
If you’re quarantined alone or separated from your loved ones, it’s understandable if you’re not feeling too great right now.
No I mean literally, it’s understandable, it’s comprehensible. The importance of human contact for our wellbeing is well known and the brain mechanics are understood.
We’re social animals. Contact with…
A few things to know about your feelings that might shed some light on what to do with them.
Here’s a question. Are our emotions completely involuntary, beyond our conscious control… or do we have some say in what we feel?
The answer is… both. It’s nuanced. But with a…
If you’re adults and speak the same language fluently, “communication” isn’t the problem—it’s only an issue because you’ve made it one.
Here are some examples of what people mislabel “communication problems”:
1. Being evasive — lying, avoiding, omitting; basically anything other than being honest, candid, transparent and forthcoming.
In which I propose a working definition.
“I did not have sexual relations with that woman, Ms. Lewinsky.”
-President Bill Clinton, televised press conference, January 26, 1998
(White House intern Monica Lewinsky sucked his cock in the Oval Office.)
It was popular at the time to assume Clinton was trying…
People often tell me the advice they’ve gotten is to learn the art of compromise. They’ve heard it’s a necessity for successful long-term relationships.
Compromise is a consequence of lone-rangering. …
12 ways confidence gave me a much needed ego… and greater confidence let me set my ego aside.
As I gained confidence as a man, I was able to skillfully take the lead in my relationship, in a way that felt good to my partner. I became attractively assertive.
Anger isn’t as dangerous as we think. It’s not as useful, either. Here’s what you need to know.
“We cannot selectively numb emotions — when we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions.”
- Brené Brown
- the capacity to feel intensely, to experience life vividly…
We set out to redefine masculinity. Then I realized the word had problems that wouldn’t be resolved by a new definition.
In 2015 I teamed up with two leaders in men’s work to offer a workshop for men in search of a new healthy masculinity.
Over three days, thirty five…